Acknowledging your marriage has ended despite doing your best to make it work can be heartbreaking. But how do you tell your spouse you want a divorce?
A divorce conversation can be uncomfortable and emotional. Even though you may not avoid this reality, you can make your talk as smooth as possible with a few tips, including:
Choose the right time
Timing is crucial when it comes to divorce conversations. You want to have adequate time and be uninterrupted to have an in-depth discussion. Consider switching off your phones and taking your kids, if you have any, to a loved one.
Be ready for your spouse’s reaction
Your spouse may have strong emotions, such as anger, confusion and sadness when you tell them you want a divorce, whether they saw it coming or not. You should be ready to deal with their reaction.
You may have had time to process these emotions, which means you may be ahead of them in the grieving process. Thus, it’s fair to allow them to do so as well. Listen to their concerns without interrupting and show them empathy. This can make the process easier for both of you.
Choose an appropriate place
Since you feel comfortable and safe in your home, it may be the best place to hold a divorce conversation. But if you believe your spouse may have an uncontrollable reaction, consider having the talk in a public place in a private setting. Give your spouse enough time to wrap their head around the matter before returning home.
Divorce conversations can be challenging. But the above-discussed tips can help you. You should also get legal help to protect your interests throughout the divorce process.